Hayter, Lorne

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                              MR. & MRS. LORNE HAYTER
                         Foster 30 Children Over Eight Years
                                 By Nonie Bunting

Despite the increasing inflationary pressure on clothing and food allowances, love-filled homes reach out and shelter abandoned children providing foster parents to a large number of children.

One such family in 'Napan have guided a number of children through their format years in the past eight years. There are approximately 125 homes available in Northumberland County for foster children. The Lorne Hayters of Napan have taken approximately 30 children in a period of eight years. They live in a big old country home situated on 12 acres of land.

"I decided after my own children were on their own, to take foster children, after visiting my sister, who kept a foster child. She said that if she had a house the size of mine she'd take more children," Mrs. Hayter said. We take children both on a short and long term basis. They mostly come from broken homes or have been taken from their homes due to parent neglect.”

"The first child we took was a 16 year old boy. We were ... at first because of his age ... turned out very well. He stayed for two years. His mother had abandoned him and his father years ago. When the father died, he came to us. He's married now and I'm still ‘mom’ to him to this date," Mrs. Hayter said.

The Hayter's experienced only one incident when a child had to be turned away. He was an eleven year old boy. "I was always in the habit of leaving my purse around and none of the children ever touched it. The boy took money and within a day he was sent back, he was the only difficult child we had," she said.

"There are always problems to a degree, as with any child, maybe we have more because of the tragedy of their past environment. We have to let the children know who's boss, especially the older ones. The most painful experience is growing to love these children only to let them go. The hardest blow occurred when we took a ten-day-old baby. We had to give her up for adoption after nine months. We loved that baby, fortunately, he was adopted by people close by, so she's still our baby in our thoughts," Mrs. Hayter said.

The Hayter couple have two children of their own; four of their grandchildren reside outside of the Province.

Presently they have four female foster children in their home averaging from age eleven to eighteen years of age. One particular child has been with the Hayters for five years. "Some of the children have been shifted from one home to another and it takes patience to gain their confidence. I really love these children, though it's sometimes difficult to get close to them when their on the defensive due to the insecurity of being shifted about from home to home," she said.

"The only duties given to the children in our home are to make their beds, do the dishes and vacuum. The duties are important in the character training of the child. We take the children away with us when we go. They have at least three holidays a year away from Napan."

Asked if the allowance for foster children was adequate, Mrs. Hayter said no. "It is not adequate in the terms of the present day youth standards and inflationary prices, but we manage to get by."

The, allowance from infancy to the age of six is $70 a month; from six to twelve, $85; from 12 to 18, $105. The family allowance is sent directly to the child welfare division of the Department of Social Services and is forwarded to the foster parents for the children.

Source: North Shore Leader – March 19, 1975

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